期望与失望

那天和朋友闲聊，说起了自己。他说我对事情没有坚持，做事也很没信心。没错，那是一直都存在的问题。

我之所以总是那么缺乏自信，是因为很小的时候听到的一句话：“期望越大失望越大！” 就因为怕失望，所以就不敢奢望；没有奢望，就不会失望。刚刚看了一本书《就靠这一次，人生急转弯》，里面也有提到，人最大的困扰来源，感到挫败的原因，都是因为对别人和自己有太多的要求与期望，只要期望与结果有落差时，心里就会感到失落。

我也了解，如果没有期望，没有目标，做任何事都不会成功。但，害怕失望的感觉远远比想要成功的感觉来得大，所以总是在没有自信的情况下完成一件事，当然，结果也跟预想的一样：“我果然是做不到。” 朋友问我：“你什么时候才能学会告诉你自己你可以?" 我不知道,但从这一刻开始,我想要改变! 我应该可以做到吧! =)

加油!

Tell Me Why

In my dream,children sing
A song of love for every boy and girl
The sky is blue and fields are green:
And laughter is the language of the world
Then i wake and all i see
Is a world full of people in need

#Tell me why(why) does it have to be like this?
Tell me why (why) is there something i have missed?
Tell me why (why) cos i don't understand
When so many need somebody
We don't give a helping hand Tell me why?
Everyday i ask myself
What will i have to do to be a man?
Do i have to stand and fight
To prove to everybody who i am?
Is that what my life is for
To waste in a world full of war? #

(children)tell me why?(declan)tell me why?
(children)tell me why?(declan)tell me why?
(together) just tell me why, why, why? #

Tell me why (why,why,does the tiger run)
Tell me why(why why do we shoot the gun)
Tell me why (why,why do we never learn)
Can someone tell us why we let the forest burn?
(why,why do we say we care)
Tell me why(why,why do we stand and stare)
Tell me why(why,why do the dolphins cry)
Can some one tell us why we let the ocean die?
(why,why if we're all the same)
Tell me why(why,why do we pass the blame)
Tell me why (why,why does it never end)
Can some one tell us why we cannot just be friends?
Why,why


p/s: played this song loud!! war is dreadful~!


"It's an unfortunate fact that we can secure peace only by preparing for war." - John F. Kennedy

Listen

There’s this day when I was in a bookstore, I saw a lil’ boy holding a book pulling his mother’ shirt and telling her: “mummy, read this, its funny..its funny..”

The mother was busy talking to the husband and neglected the boy and he went to his younger brother at around age 5 and show him: "read this, its funny.." and the younger brother also took a book and bring to show his mother like de older one did, the mother was stil busy talkin but this time she gave some responds at least : "oh ya..funny!" and the lil' brother walked away with a satisfied smile...

We always wish to have a pair of ears to listen to us, but we can hardly find it. Im sure all of us experienced this- when we tried to talk, mummy will stop us by sayin: "大人说话，小孩别插嘴!" (children keep quiet when adults are talkin!). Teachers never be the one we will ever share our problems with; friends- sometimes you haven even start telling yours, they already burst out theirs and maybe 10 times worst than your case....

day in day out, we learnt to keep everythin within ourselves, put on the big big smile on our face and hide the genuine feelin and thought we had inside us. Yet, while blamin peoples for not givin us anytime to listen to our problems did we actually give them a chance to talk about theirs as well? Have you ever turn the topic back to yourself when they are tryin to tell u their problems? We never really lend out a pair of ears to listen to people anymore, we are too busy..yea that's de excuse for everythin we fail to do.

No wonder peoples love to spend their time online these days; it doesnt matter if anyone listened, at least there's a chance to finish or complete what they wana said without interruption! Friends, lets listen...talk less. The whole point of sharing your problems with friends isnt to seek a solution..it's just for u to let out your feelin!

*I'm specially dedicating this post to the someone(yes it's you!) who r havin lotta problems and not willing to come to me! Tell and i'l just listen =)

Celebration

had been surrounded by celebration tis 2 days.

On 9th March, we arranged a surprise birthday party for Henry at H.I.D.E.; a newly opened restaurant near my place and the ambience there is perfect =) so we deco the place before hand and called Henry there when everythin was ready. He was speechless when he saw all of us jump out from no where..teehee~ happy birthday brother..officially 21 now! the surprise follow by the dinner..we ordered a few dishes and share out, the tom yam seafood was superb =P
There was great restaurant with really nice ambience, and lovely friends, and lotsa pressies, and a bucket of heineken, and nice dishes, and exciting pool game, and "expensive" helium balloon....its a great nite out=)

the fella who turned 21

Pressies from us

Beautiful lighting and helium balloons

Cloverz@ H.I.D.E.

Siakap with chilis, garlic and lime

The superb Tom Yam seafood

The springrolls and kangkung balacan =)

On 10th March was uncle John's weddin..
The weddin dinner was held in The Ritz Chalton hotel. I feel its more like Transmile Air annual dinner, as both the bride and groom are from transmile and you can see lotsa transmile crew there, all the captains and employees. Anyway, its a nite that filled with happiness and darn I cant stop thinkin about the future weddin of mine and ofcz all my friend's. I cant wait to attend my fren's weddin especially my best fren's weddin..helpin them to prepare everythin since the mornin, get everythin ready for them..aww the feelin is just so NICE =p hey best fren, when r u gonna marry huh??

happy weddin to uncle John and Babie =)

I will survive..

Read this article in seventeen, which I found it quite true.

Breakin up, let's be honest about it. Everyone's been there (at least the majority of us) Those "I need more space", "we need to talk" excuses have left you devastated. Right now, you're left with two choices: walk away eventually after behaving like a total wreck or, walk away with dignity.


DO

Accept your hurts and pains. Deal with it honestly and allow yourself the opportunity to work through it. Confide in close friends.

Leave the past behind. Don't go on mourning the 'what ifs'. Let go of disappointments for your own sake. Forgive yourself and him in order to move on.

Keep yourself occupied. Get involved in physical activities or go on a long trip. Sport is a good therapy as it helps you sleep better.

Think positive. It's all in the state of the mind. If you think you are beaten, you are. Think and believe that you can make it through.

LET IT ALL OUT! Cry, scream, vent, wallow in self-pity. It's ok to lie in bed for a weekend, mope around in your pyjamas amd spend time curled up with your fav Ben& Jerry's ice cream. The idea is to let your emotions OUT! Don't keep things inside. Allow yourself one last wallow amd eventually, you'll be able to get outta bed, smilling and laughin again like the way you used to.
p/s: this one i personally think is the best..you wont get over until you cry it all out.

Take joy. Enjoy your newfound freedom and do things at the spur of the moment without having to worry what he'll think.

Be strong. Only you can change yourself.


DON'T

Lead others on. If you're not over your ex yet, make that clear. You'll risk getting into a rebound relationship.

Use alcohol or drugs to numb your feelings. Don't even touch them.

Bad-mouth. Don't gossip about your ex or plan revenge on him. It's a waste of time.

Put the blame on yourself or him. It took both of you to make and break the relationship. Both are equally responsible.

Lose faith. Assuming all guys are scumbags might result in missing someone great!

Sit around staring at mementos. Pack up! you don't need anything that will constantly remind you of your ex. Put them far away from you or if you must, throw them.

adapted from seventeen, Mac2007.


"What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger."

Just Do It

Create your own Friend Test here

I've been real bored, so yea here I am with my test. I just realised how hard is it for a teacher to set the objective paper!! To give wrong answer is never an easy job =p

Not Ready to Make Nice- Dixie Chicks

Forgive, sounds good
Forget, I’m not sure I could
They say time heals everything
But I’m still waiting

I’m through with doubt
There’s nothing left for me to figure out
I’ve paid a price
And I’ll keep paying

# I’m not ready to make nice
I’m not ready to back down
I’m still mad as hell and
I don’t have time to go round and round and round
It’s too late to make it right
I probably wouldn’t if I could
‘Cause I’m mad as hell
Can’t bring myself to do what it is you think I should

I know you said
Can’t you just get over it
It turned my whole world around
And I kind of like it

I made my bed and I sleep like a baby
With no regrets and I don’t mind sayin’
It’s a sad sad story when a mother will teach her
Daughter that she ought to hate a perfect stranger
And how in the world can the words that I said
Send somebody so over the edge
That they’d write me a letter
Sayin’ that I better shut up and sing
Or my life will be over

Forgive, sounds good
Forget, I’m not sure I could
They say time heals everything
But I’m still waiting

It's complicated

I was quite amazed that there is this "it's complicated" choice under the status column in friendster. Indeed, besides single or attached it can be real complicated. Especially when you don't know what kinda status you should put yourself in.

To fall for someone without him/her realising it is kinda funny. Every lil' thing they did or said will make you think alot. Even if its something they didnt intend to do but you will feel that they are tryin to hint you something (okay..I found the word for this-PERASAN) Argh~!!!!! I must be insaned!! Just when I was thinkin bout him, his message will arrive just in time (that sound fake but its true) And he's one of those who can put the smile on my face again when my mood is terribly bad...but when you ask me what do you like about him? I duno..I just have this feelin tellin me that he might be the one hmm but well my six sense always not workin right, so it cant be trusted I guess.

I keep tellin myself: "let's be friend and get to know each other better first" but when you fall for someone, there's always something there to block you from seein the flaws =.= aih..to like somebody is one thing, to step out the first step is another thing...see?It's complicated enough isnt it?


"Whoso loves, believe the impossible."- Elizabeth Barret Browning