Read this article in seventeen, which I found it quite true.
Breakin up, let's be honest about it. Everyone's been there (at least the majority of us) Those "I need more space", "we need to talk" excuses have left you devastated. Right now, you're left with two choices: walk away eventually after behaving like a total wreck or, walk away with dignity.
DO
Accept your hurts and pains. Deal with it honestly and allow yourself the opportunity to work through it. Confide in close friends.
Leave the past behind. Don't go on mourning the 'what ifs'. Let go of disappointments for your own sake. Forgive yourself and him in order to move on.
Keep yourself occupied. Get involved in physical activities or go on a long trip. Sport is a good therapy as it helps you sleep better.
Think positive. It's all in the state of the mind. If you think you are beaten, you are. Think and believe that you can make it through.
LET IT ALL OUT! Cry, scream, vent, wallow in self-pity. It's ok to lie in bed for a weekend, mope around in your pyjamas amd spend time curled up with your fav Ben& Jerry's ice cream. The idea is to let your emotions OUT! Don't keep things inside. Allow yourself one last wallow amd eventually, you'll be able to get outta bed, smilling and laughin again like the way you used to.
p/s: this one i personally think is the best..you wont get over until you cry it all out.
Take joy. Enjoy your newfound freedom and do things at the spur of the moment without having to worry what he'll think.
Be strong. Only you can change yourself.
DON'T
Lead others on. If you're not over your ex yet, make that clear. You'll risk getting into a rebound relationship.
Use alcohol or drugs to numb your feelings. Don't even touch them.
Bad-mouth. Don't gossip about your ex or plan revenge on him. It's a waste of time.
Put the blame on yourself or him. It took both of you to make and break the relationship. Both are equally responsible.
Lose faith. Assuming all guys are scumbags might result in missing someone great!
Sit around staring at mementos. Pack up! you don't need anything that will constantly remind you of your ex. Put them far away from you or if you must, throw them.
adapted from seventeen, Mac2007.
"What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger."
Breakin up, let's be honest about it. Everyone's been there (at least the majority of us) Those "I need more space", "we need to talk" excuses have left you devastated. Right now, you're left with two choices: walk away eventually after behaving like a total wreck or, walk away with dignity.
DO
Accept your hurts and pains. Deal with it honestly and allow yourself the opportunity to work through it. Confide in close friends.
Leave the past behind. Don't go on mourning the 'what ifs'. Let go of disappointments for your own sake. Forgive yourself and him in order to move on.
Keep yourself occupied. Get involved in physical activities or go on a long trip. Sport is a good therapy as it helps you sleep better.
Think positive. It's all in the state of the mind. If you think you are beaten, you are. Think and believe that you can make it through.
LET IT ALL OUT! Cry, scream, vent, wallow in self-pity. It's ok to lie in bed for a weekend, mope around in your pyjamas amd spend time curled up with your fav Ben& Jerry's ice cream. The idea is to let your emotions OUT! Don't keep things inside. Allow yourself one last wallow amd eventually, you'll be able to get outta bed, smilling and laughin again like the way you used to.
p/s: this one i personally think is the best..you wont get over until you cry it all out.
Take joy. Enjoy your newfound freedom and do things at the spur of the moment without having to worry what he'll think.
Be strong. Only you can change yourself.
DON'T
Lead others on. If you're not over your ex yet, make that clear. You'll risk getting into a rebound relationship.
Use alcohol or drugs to numb your feelings. Don't even touch them.
Bad-mouth. Don't gossip about your ex or plan revenge on him. It's a waste of time.
Put the blame on yourself or him. It took both of you to make and break the relationship. Both are equally responsible.
Lose faith. Assuming all guys are scumbags might result in missing someone great!
Sit around staring at mementos. Pack up! you don't need anything that will constantly remind you of your ex. Put them far away from you or if you must, throw them.
adapted from seventeen, Mac2007.
"What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger."
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